How to Determine Ring Size and Style Preferences Secretly

Planning the perfect proposal? Here’s ideas on how you can surreptitiously determine her ring size and style to make the big moment truly unforgettable. From tips on how to measure ring size without her knowing to choosing the perfect engagement ring and making the proposal moment special, this guide has what you need to plan a surprise she’ll treasure forever.

Why Determining Ring Size and Style Matters

Getting the ring size and style right is about more than just avoiding a resizing trip to the jeweler. It’s a thoughtful gesture that shows you know and care about her unique preferences. Plus, a perfectly fitting ring and a design she loves will make the moment all the more magical.

Whether you’re shopping for a diamond engagement ring or a custom alternative gemstone design, nailing the fit and aesthetic is essential to making your proposal absolute perfection.

Understanding the Importance of Fit and Style

• Emotional Impact: A ring that fits perfectly shows attention to detail. It will let her know that you care about her preferences and are attentive to her likes and dislikes. When the perfect gift is given, the receiver feels seen and understood.

• Resizing Consideration: While resizing is common and one resizing is complimentary with every custom ring from Bohemi, resizing means she’ll have to part with her ring for a few weeks while we resize it.  It’s not the end of the world, but it’s nicer to not have to go ringless.

• Design Consideration: If a ring needs to be resized more than a single size, it can effect the setting of stones and any details on the ring band.

Explore our Engagement Rings and Custom Ring Services for timeless designs she’ll love.

How to Determine Ring Size Without Asking

If you’re wondering how to find a ring size without her knowing, these clever methods will help:

Using an Existing Ring

Borrow a ring she already wears, and know which finger on which hand she wears it. Most people’s dominant hand is larger than their non-dominant hand, and each finger can be a different size. Take that ring to a jeweler for measurement. If you are local, bring the ring to us! It’s always best to get sized by the jeweler making the ring.

Measuring with String or Paper

Wondering how to measure ring size with string? Take a piece of string or strip of paper, wrap it around her ring finger while she’s asleep, and mark the length. Then compare it to a ring size chart. This method is not ideal if your partner is a light sleeper and it is not exact, but it will help us get close.

Sneaky Help from Friends and Family

Enlist the help of her trusted friends or family. They might already know the answer if you ask them, “what size ring does she wear?” They could also help you find out discreetly.

We are here to help! The best way to determine a ring size is to be professionally sized by a jeweler. With a little coordination and scheming from us, and the help of a friend or family member we can sneakily size her ring finger if we can get her in our store.

Choosing the Perfect Engagement Ring Style

Knowing how to choose the perfect engagement ring is all about paying attention to her tastes, lifestyle likes and dislikes. Here’s how:

Observing Personal Style Clues

• Look at her current jewelry collection. Does she prefer yellow gold, silver, or rose gold? Are her pieces minimalist or bold? Is there a theme?

• What are her favorite pieces of jewelry? Sending us pictures of her jewelry will help us help you.

• What does she do for work and hobbies? Lifestyle and hobbies are a big part of how we construct a ring.

• Consider her wardrobe. Is her style classic, modern, vintage, bohemian, casual? We are here to help you figure it out.

• Listen when you’re with her. Does she talk about colors she prefers? Does she ever mention someone else’s clothing or accessories that she loves or hates?

• Her dislikes are as important as her likes. Keep a note in your phone, take pictures of things she points out, both positive and negative.

For a deeper dive on Choosing the Perfect Engagement Ring, check out our in-depth guide here.

Knowing Her Preferences for Metals and Gems

Some people love sparkly, clear diamonds, while others might prefer colored gemstones like sapphires, salt and pepper diamonds or emeralds in a unique custom piece. Take note of the colors and styles she gravitates toward. Don’t forget to ask questions! It’s easier than you think to learn about her jewelry tastes without giving your plans away.

• Does she have a friend, coworker or family member that recently got engaged? Ask her about the ring and pick up cues on how she talks about it. You might find out she’s not hugely into jewelry, which is also great information for us to know!

• Ask people who know her well. Her mom, sister or best friend might already know exactly what she wants.

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How to Shop for Engagement Rings Discreetly

Shopping for an engagement ring without her catching on might be tricky, but these tips make it easier:

Shopping Online for Privacy

Browse online for a range of styles without worrying about being spotted in a jewelry store. We offer virtual consultations, just shoot us an email at Hello@Bohemi.com

Leveraging Customization Services

Customizing a ring ensures it’s one-of-a-kind. When you work with Bohemi, you can rest assured that we will help you through every step of the process in a personal and meaningful way. We will have many conversations and ask all the questions to guide you through this unfamiliar process and bring your vision to life based on her preferences.

Read our blog How to Budget for an Engagement Ring for more tips.

Planning a Surprise Proposal with the Perfect Ring

The proposal is almost as important as the ring. Heck, for many, the where and when is the only real surprise, so do your best to make it special! Here’s how to plan a surprise marriage proposal she’ll cherish forever.

Coordinating the Proposal and Ring Reveal

• Choose a setting that reflects her personality—whether it’s a romantic getaway, an intimate evening at home, or a grand public moment.
• Know your partner! Some people would have a panic attack at a public proposal, while it would be other’s greatest dream to be on the Jumbotron at the Super Bowl with you on one knee.
• Don’t be weird about this! For most people, it’s not about the grandiosity or extravagance of the proposal, it’s about the care and thoughtfulness that went into it. Be considerate, listen, pay attention and you'll nail it.

Getting Professional Help for Custom Rings

Working with Bohemi ensures the ring matches her style and your budget. We can also offer advice on making the proposal extra magical. We even offer custom wooden ring boxes to make every part of your moment one-of-a-kind.

Expert Tips to Make the Surprise Memorable

• Be attentive to her hints and preferences - has she talked about other’s proposals? When you’re watching TV or movies, does she comment on how the characters went about it?

• Ask for help from those that are close to her. This doesn’t have to happen in a vacuum. Her closest people may know exactly what she wants, or be happy to help you figure it out without tipping her off. They may even be able to assist in executing the most perfect surprise. 

• Take a deep breath, buddy. You got this! Practice the proposal to ease your nerves, meditate, do what you need to do to remain calm. Being super anxious and acting different might tip her off. But realistically, even if she’s expecting it, try to remember that she doesn’t know all the details, and that’s where the most remarkable moments lay. Her suspicions don’t mean you’ve blown it, roll with the punches.

• Capture the moment with photos or videos. This is a once in a lifetime opportunity and you’ll want to remember it forever. Many people hire a professional to capture their proposal. Others get help from a trusted friend or family member to be there at the ready. Another easy option is to set up your phone for a selfie with her, press record on your video app and propose when she thinks you’re just taking a regular pic.

With these tips on how to measure engagement ring size without her knowing and how to shop for engagement rings, you’re all set to plan the proposal of a lifetime. Explore our Engagement Ring Collection today to find or create the perfect ring for your special moment.